Looking at my transition from mono to ENM and when I experienced friends and lovers do it as well I can tell you that this might take time and sometimes it hurts and you make bad choices and suffer from the consequences. That’s poly life how I see it. I saw couples break up over it, experiment with other people, learn more about themselves and then come back together and make it work.

There are some really great moments in that and eventually everyone has done their homework and it works out for long stretches till things change again and things repeat(the bad and good).