i know we have people with 4d2 accounts in 196, could you try and dm me @erotador:catgirl.cloud and i can invite you directly to the space if you want.

try matrix, 196 has public chatrooms i help moderate, and you can apply for the genderverse rooms that ada and kaity (blahaj admins) run, both are full of cool queer peeps

196 space: https://matrix.to/#%2F!7ApakjBY\_Px9RWqFw4R3\_GZWszdlNAsAUcenCeja4mQ%3Fvia=catgirl.cloud&via=matrix.org&via=chat.blahaj.zone

genderverse applications: https://matrix.to/#/#gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone

she does not respect you and that’s a bad sign for if you two were ever to get together. she has already demonstrated she will treat you bad outside of a relationship, how could it get any better if your in one?

what’s in two months from now?

i love big boobs, and want mine to be size abl myself, but we shall see lol. either way having a preference for the kind of body you find attractive is a extremely normal experience, and your not fetishizing women, your respecting them so in the end thats what matters, that and any partners you may have i suppose, but thats another conversation entirely lol

khronkite is a great drop in kwin script that turns kde into a tiler

one of the things i really like about lemmy is the public mod log, and instances like blahaj.zone that have a well defined culture with good admins that help weed out most of the makers. drama and troublesome users are still present don’t get me wrong, but it’s far less obvious trolls or people with some hate fetish. i feel much more at home here than i ever did on Reddit

they are transphobic plain and simple. some people have a preference for genitals, but this was not about that for them, it was about the “validity” of your transness and that is bullshit

if this behavior is happening now it will only get worse with time. i wouldn’t want to deal with that kind of behavior all the time. you deserve better

hi im a mod, if you want to post this, just make sure its marked nsfw and has a proper content warning in the title and i wont remove it

hard to say, some people are less interested in romance than sex and affection. if that were the case then you have to ask yourself if your okay with that kind of relationship or do you want more? its perfectly normal to have your own wants and finding a partner with compatible desires is a a good goal

omg another one, welcome, how you enjoy your stay <3

hi, im a mod, if anybody makes you unwelcome for liking women then please let me know <3 your always welcome here :3

meowdy!

lesbian not lesbianing

the terms we use to describe ourselves are exactly that, descriptive, not prescriptive. nobody gets to tell you your gender, your orientation, your identity but you. you are the only person who gets to tell others who you are, and if other people disagree with you then thats their problem not yours.

queerness is such a unique and personal experience that no two people will experience it the same way, and it helps to communicate some basics, but nobody is ever the perfect picturesque shining example of lesbian, or gay, or straight, or whatever. some people want rigid definitions for words, and sure there are plenty of times when that kind of thinking can be helpful. but people are so much more complex than labels.

besides most of these labels and such were created long ago and have changed in meaning so much, our understanding of sexuality is so much more broad than they were even 20 years ago, and i think that we need to keep pushing those boundaries and explore what it truly means to be queer. go do controversial things, inspire others to be themselves, dont take shit from anybody, own it girl <3

omg who has the rope?

I would be rather careful around this one, not accepting you for your body is a big red flag imo, who’s to say this is the only thing they are going to have a problem with?

but gay sex is the best kind of sex

"I'm pro trans but, there are some things I'm not 100% onboard with" is met with "Harsh criticism & Ban" 

its okay to be confused and want to learn, but ignorance is not an excuse for bigotry and most of us gender non conforming folk here are not particularly interested in justifying our existence and rights to the masses. we come here to be ourselves, so we appreciate the efforts of the admins who create a space for us and keep the bigots out. if you get banned from blahaj.zone i can say with reasonable certainty that due diligence was done to ensure it was a transphobe or other bigot, not somebody who does not deserve it.