

What I’ve heard (fairly recently) is do not skimp on anything that goes between you and the ground: bed, shoes, office chair. I’d add carpet to that because my feet hurt standing on hardwood/vinyl/thin carpet and I often have to wear shoes indoors.
25+ yr Java/JS dev
Linux novice - running Ubuntu (no windows/mac)
What I’ve heard (fairly recently) is do not skimp on anything that goes between you and the ground: bed, shoes, office chair. I’d add carpet to that because my feet hurt standing on hardwood/vinyl/thin carpet and I often have to wear shoes indoors.
I try to turn things around and ask their perspective and then point out things where I have a different take. Try to make analogies with things they do in their job. The key is to try and ground what you’re saying in things they already understand.
But also keep in mind there are conversations where the other person is disinclined to understand. In the case of salary negotiations, it’s often not in their own interest to understand why your ask is reasonable.
Maybe these people feel they’re marginalised because they already hate men and men avoid them?
Spoken like someone marginalized people are right to avoid. Not every community or post requires you to share your thoughts, particularly if you lack the perspective they want to hear from.
It’s one closed door out of an infinity. Move on and don’t worry about it. I don’t knowingly go into black or Christian or women or queer spaces and share my perspectives on their issues. My point of view is represented to those communities incessantly every day. They will be fine without our contributions.
My reflection on that period would lead me to suggest it was the mass “normie” invasion of nerd-space and the promotion of low-effort participation. I don’t remember anything specific about that particular timeframe, though.
The internet was better when it wasn’t big enough to be worth monetizing. And the signal to noise ratio has generally grown exponentially with participation. Which makes sense if you think about it.
To expand on that, all media with a negligible barrier to entry is social media. Which describes the internet as a whole. The commodification of such media is both unnecessary and parasitic. The only thing “social media” adds is accessibility.
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