i’ve been homosexual for the longest time. however, prior to my transition, i felt pressured to be into ““other”” guys, since i perceived liking women to be very “manly” and didn’t wanna be viewed that way! i don’t mean this as in being gay = being effeminate, just that the prospect of “having” a woman is a common masculine ideal (which i of course disliked). when i realized myself as a girl—free of having to achieve femininity in the bounds of stereotypical manhood—i came to accept my lust for other women and fembys.
my attraction to those who are male/masculine isn’t completely gone, but i’ll likely refrain from any actual relationship with any one/many of them. the last time i tried being even a little cutesy but otherwise unserious with a “guy” the labours of t4t took hold (we did actually have a really productive discussion though!).
i’ve been homosexual for the longest time. however, prior to my transition, i felt pressured to be into ““other”” guys, since i perceived liking women to be very “manly” and didn’t wanna be viewed that way! i don’t mean this as in being gay = being effeminate, just that the prospect of “having” a woman is a common masculine ideal (which i of course disliked). when i realized myself as a girl—free of having to achieve femininity in the bounds of stereotypical manhood—i came to accept my lust for other women and fembys.
my attraction to those who are male/masculine isn’t completely gone, but i’ll likely refrain from any actual relationship with any one/many of them. the last time i tried being even a little cutesy but otherwise unserious with a “guy” the labours of t4t took hold (we did actually have a really productive discussion though!).