Trans women are women, but forcing women to emotionally react to trans women as if they were cis women is not a decision we can or should make for them. Feelings don’t care about your facts.

Not to medicalise this this shit but you can make the exact same argument for anyone who’s encountering a high needs neurodivergent, or someone who requires assistive devices, or someone who is heavily scarred, etc. Because the issues here are “I don’t like how they deviate from what I think X people should look like” and “I am making preconceived potential behaviours up to be “frightened” of” aka Bias.

And they can both go square back up the arse they came from. It’s not transwomen’s fault your parents never taught you humanity was diverse