It’s way easier and safer to transition, especially openly. I’d suspect that first. Like seriously, it was nuts how difficult it was in the 80s, much less like the 60s. And everyone who wanted to transition knew it.
The hard dilemma many of them are placed in is being unhappy and living as a cis, or potentially being happy by living as their true self. Unfortunately many choose the first option because the latter is believed to be worse. This is how it has been until quite recently. They are basically caught between two bad situations. In which one MIGHT be better.
Some people talk about how some people regret gender affirming care, and want to reverse it. This is something that is sometimes done, not as a result of actually being cis, but because they believe it is easier than being openly trans. It is incredibly sad to think about.
All society have to do is not give a fuck, and they would be able to be themselves. Instead so many people are being forced to live unhappy lives. Just because we could not give a fuck about something that does not affect us.
You got it pretty well, but I think it’s also worth acknowledging just how difficult transition was back in the day.
Until the rise of informed consent in the mid 10s in the US, you needed a letter of recommendation from a therapist to start hormones. Depending on time period and therapist this could range from a sympathetic therapist double checking that you’ve thought everything through and it’s not spur of the moment (still took 3-12 months and associated therapy fees) which is what I got, to a year or more of a therapist investigating to prove whether you’re a “true transsexual” or not (best hope you’re either transitioning to hetero or able to convincingly lie about it) and to ensure that there’s no way for you to function without transitioning.
RLE (real life experience) was the default until falling out of fashion in the 10s in the US. It was basically you have to live full time as your preferred gender (as the doctor sees it) often requiring passing for cis or meeting some attractiveness standard, for anywhere from a few months to 2 years, after which point you could be prescribed hormones. Hell, in the mid 10s a friend got denied a letter of recommendation because she didn’t wear a skirt and makeup to the therapist. RLE was sometimes compared to hazing.
For a long time therapists also had weird expectations on trans people like that we should go “stealth” ie start a new life where nobody knows we’re trans. I think it was the 90s when a controversial study was done where the researcher followed trans people long enough to become trusted only to find that once we trusted them we stopped being overly performative of our genders in front of them.
Oh and this isn’t even touching on the difficulty of finding a doctor to prescribe hormones, which still isn’t easy.
And that’s not touching on the social side. You’re looking at violence, especially of the intimate partner variety, and disowning. You’re looking at your career prospects likely being torpedoed and possibly being pushed into sex work (or at the very least for it to be a real concern). You’re looking at a really difficult life, and this is previous generations so by the time someone figures this out about themselves they may be married with kids.
When I started transitioning in 2015 there were still trans people giving the advice to wait to start until you were deciding between transition and suicide. Transitioning was the best decision I ever made, and yeah I don’t blame them for that advice. When it’s that hard, you need to know there’s no going back before you start.
Could this be why there are so many trans people all of a sudden?
No. Trans people have always been around. The media and politicians just chose to focus on them lately
I know they’ve always been around but there’s a huge increase in the number of people that identify as trans over the last 15 years
It’s way easier and safer to transition, especially openly. I’d suspect that first. Like seriously, it was nuts how difficult it was in the 80s, much less like the 60s. And everyone who wanted to transition knew it.
Partly because media focus bringing attention to the idea you can be trans. Partly because increasing acceptance. Not breast milk hormones
Partly because it’s gotten way less unnecessarily difficult to access transition care
Disclaimer: I am cishet, so I might be ignorant.
The hard dilemma many of them are placed in is being unhappy and living as a cis, or potentially being happy by living as their true self. Unfortunately many choose the first option because the latter is believed to be worse. This is how it has been until quite recently. They are basically caught between two bad situations. In which one MIGHT be better.
Some people talk about how some people regret gender affirming care, and want to reverse it. This is something that is sometimes done, not as a result of actually being cis, but because they believe it is easier than being openly trans. It is incredibly sad to think about.
All society have to do is not give a fuck, and they would be able to be themselves. Instead so many people are being forced to live unhappy lives. Just because we could not give a fuck about something that does not affect us.
You got it pretty well, but I think it’s also worth acknowledging just how difficult transition was back in the day.
Until the rise of informed consent in the mid 10s in the US, you needed a letter of recommendation from a therapist to start hormones. Depending on time period and therapist this could range from a sympathetic therapist double checking that you’ve thought everything through and it’s not spur of the moment (still took 3-12 months and associated therapy fees) which is what I got, to a year or more of a therapist investigating to prove whether you’re a “true transsexual” or not (best hope you’re either transitioning to hetero or able to convincingly lie about it) and to ensure that there’s no way for you to function without transitioning.
RLE (real life experience) was the default until falling out of fashion in the 10s in the US. It was basically you have to live full time as your preferred gender (as the doctor sees it) often requiring passing for cis or meeting some attractiveness standard, for anywhere from a few months to 2 years, after which point you could be prescribed hormones. Hell, in the mid 10s a friend got denied a letter of recommendation because she didn’t wear a skirt and makeup to the therapist. RLE was sometimes compared to hazing.
For a long time therapists also had weird expectations on trans people like that we should go “stealth” ie start a new life where nobody knows we’re trans. I think it was the 90s when a controversial study was done where the researcher followed trans people long enough to become trusted only to find that once we trusted them we stopped being overly performative of our genders in front of them.
Oh and this isn’t even touching on the difficulty of finding a doctor to prescribe hormones, which still isn’t easy.
And that’s not touching on the social side. You’re looking at violence, especially of the intimate partner variety, and disowning. You’re looking at your career prospects likely being torpedoed and possibly being pushed into sex work (or at the very least for it to be a real concern). You’re looking at a really difficult life, and this is previous generations so by the time someone figures this out about themselves they may be married with kids.
When I started transitioning in 2015 there were still trans people giving the advice to wait to start until you were deciding between transition and suicide. Transitioning was the best decision I ever made, and yeah I don’t blame them for that advice. When it’s that hard, you need to know there’s no going back before you start.
Thanks for taking the time to explain it for me ❤️