cross-posted from: https://aussie.zone/post/36086049
Research that has analysed thousands of randomly chosen videos from popular pornographic websites found that physical aggression like strangulation, slapping and hair-pulling was present in 35-45% of scenes, depending on the website.
It’s important to be wary of clutching our pearls about porn here – there is no evidence to suggest that watching ethical porn results in an upswing in violent behaviour, but research released last year by the Australian Institute of Criminology does indeed show that more frequent intentional viewing of violent pornography is associated with a “small but statistically significant” increase in violence against women by men after they watched violent porn.
Couple this with the knowledge that one in three Australian children have seen online porn and that the average age of initial consumption of porn is 13 – and we can all feel a desperate kind of sorrow for adolescents navigating this world. Girls thinking this is what boys want, boys thinking that this is what girls want. The confusion, the painful wanting to be wanted, that perennial need to be thought of as cool that comes with teenagehood, all of it is now shadowed by the normalisation of something that is clearly dangerous – as any medical expert will tell you, there is no safe way to lose oxygen to the brain.
…I know from personal experience how hard it is to have the conversation about porn with young children. You look at your sweet prepubescent boy child and think he is definitely the only child on the planet not being exposed too early to things he definitely shouldn’t see. He is. They are. Not talking about it is no longer an option.
@arbilp3 no safe way, but htf do you get enjoyment out of choking someone during sex? I’m sure the women/girl isn’t enjoying it.
I’ve had sexual partners ask me to perform painful or very dominant acts on them. Nothing that would risk serious injury, and anything around the neck is a non-negotiable limit for me (no safe way to strangle), but yeah, people aren’t all the same and some people request things things you and I would consider unenjoyable and disturbing.
Someone mentioned erotic asphyxiation, but since most people aren’t just suffocating themselves outside of sex and they’re learning this through pornography or word-of-mouth, I suspect it’s more about the concepts of control and strength, and of animalistic primal desire. Both giving and receiving, some people find comfort and security in the feeling of someone having control over them.
@eureka yes, dangerous to assume everyone thinks the same as I do
I’ve had a number of women tell me they like it and request it. Still a hard no from me. Also had a couple try to squeeze my throat and it is not something I allow.
Asphyxiation, when done correctly, can be pleasurable for the receiving party. You get a kind of “high” from it. But there’s a technique to it to make sure it’s as safe as possible.
Self-asphyxiation was a trend among schoolkids for a while as one of those “challenges”. Got a few kids killed sadly.
I remember how teenaged kids were balancing their chin on the back of a precariously balanced chair whilst performing auto-erotic asphyxiation.
They had heard what happened to Michael Hutchence and decided they didn’t want to be found like that so found a “safe” way of doing it.
If they did pass out, the chair would fall over, circulation and respiration would restart and they would regain consciousness.