I still have Facebook because of real life friends but otherwise I am on the fediverse and Bluesky only. I even use Maven. I have never gotten into Snapchat or Tiktok at all, and I dumped Instagram and Twitter a while back.

I would love to not be on Facebook but sometimes if someone commits a really trashy crime in the news and I look them up and their page is full of crazy it’s pretty delicious. Like a Southern Gothic novel.

I don’t know the answer, but I support people as however they identify, I don’t care and love them all, but I sort of would feel silly saying I was she/her. Like it’s like I’m participating in something that I’m not really a part of.

My 87 year old aunt volunteers for a local theater, which obviously has a lot of queer folks involved, and at one point the coordinator said when the volunteers introduced themselves at a meeting that they should announce their preferred pronouns. I get that the coordinator meant well, but my aunt said it’s nobody’s business what her pronouns are unless RuPaul is asking. LOL.

In its Facebook and onward phase, yes I agree. Prior to that we had this wonderful site called Livejournal where you could privately blog to a select group of friends, and it was the absolute best way to brain dump, have people give you real advice, and make the best online friends. Yes it had much controversy when it was bought by a Russian company, I can point you to a podcast if you want more detail on that, and certainly there was drama sometimes, but I would give a lot to just talk to my friends as a group that way again and really know each other deeply that way again, and other than the odd very ignorable ad, you weren’t forced to be part of an algorithm or AI horseshit or fake news or verified accounts or any of that garbage. You could buy a permanent account for 100 dollars for the added features, but that was basically started to keep the site running after it took off. It really was beautiful and helpful and loving and felt organic and true for that time.

Have you ever noticed how hard it is for novels or TV or any other fictional platform to include anything about smartphones or using social media? When it is mentioned it feels very awkward and forced into the narrative.

The best eggs are eggs from a farm that are unwashed and you keep on the counter. They taste a zillion times better and last for a long time. I get 3 dozen for 15 dollars at the local farm. It’s honestly better than the store.