i am non-binary transfem and my living area is usually messy but nowhere near like a dumpster. however, i do have some bad habits from having ADHD and also never being told to clean as a kid because my mother was an obsessive house cleaner so she got to everything first. so while i was raised male i’m not a man but i definitely was allowed to be messy as a boy… so i’m sure that contributes to a degree. my guess is we raised boys to be less tidy because we wanted them to focus on more traditionally masculine career paths.
i am non-binary transfem and my living area is usually messy but nowhere near like a dumpster. however, i do have some bad habits from having ADHD and also never being told to clean as a kid because my mother was an obsessive house cleaner so she got to everything first. so while i was raised male i’m not a man but i definitely was allowed to be messy as a boy… so i’m sure that contributes to a degree. my guess is we raised boys to be less tidy because we wanted them to focus on more traditionally masculine career paths.