Sounds like you encountered an idiot. I identify as a lesbian. The fact that I have dated a man and that I have occassionally gotten sexy with men in group situations does not change this. Orientation labels are shorthand- something that saves time in communication with folks. It’s not meant to be an unyielding, eternal truth with no exceptions ever. If you say you’re a lesbian (in good faith), then you’re a lesbian, end of story.
Sounds like you encountered an idiot. I identify as a lesbian. The fact that I have dated a man and that I have occassionally gotten sexy with men in group situations does not change this. Orientation labels are shorthand- something that saves time in communication with folks. It’s not meant to be an unyielding, eternal truth with no exceptions ever. If you say you’re a lesbian (in good faith), then you’re a lesbian, end of story.