As someone whos mental health and attachment style can’t cope with Poly, RA or ENM, it’s starting to feel more and more hopeless when trying to date, 90% of the queer people I know are one of those. My ex made me feel broken and wrong for wanting a mono relationship and tried to convince me to be ENM because apparently mono is rooted in colonialism.
I’m just like, am I not allowed to like what I like?
Its fucked and makes me feel like I’ll be alone forever.
No, I’m right there with you. No shade on those who want to be in poly/ENM relationships, but it just doesn’t mesh with my brain and how I like to exist in relationships. As long as both partners happy and equal, I can’t imagine why there should be anything wrong with being in a monogamous relationship.
As someone whos mental health and attachment style can’t cope with Poly, RA or ENM, it’s starting to feel more and more hopeless when trying to date, 90% of the queer people I know are one of those. My ex made me feel broken and wrong for wanting a mono relationship and tried to convince me to be ENM because apparently mono is rooted in colonialism.
I’m just like, am I not allowed to like what I like?
Its fucked and makes me feel like I’ll be alone forever.
No, I’m right there with you. No shade on those who want to be in poly/ENM relationships, but it just doesn’t mesh with my brain and how I like to exist in relationships. As long as both partners happy and equal, I can’t imagine why there should be anything wrong with being in a monogamous relationship.