Important to note: I have OCD, and I seem to have this obsession with the idea of me being transphobic. I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I have known this for years, and I try my best to support everyone. I have a lot of trans friends, I love them a lot, and treat them and see them as I would anyone else.

So, I feel like I’m transphobic. Is there any evidence of this? No. I’ve been a vocal supporter about LGBTQ+ rights for years, including trans rights, but I’ve recently become increasingly anxious at the thought of me being transphobic.

This likely stems from my questioning of my own gender, often times I feel that I am not quite male, maybe that I’m nonbinary or genderfluid. I mentioned this to my nonbinary friend, and they said “you don’t seem nonbinary”. This sent me spiraling, questioning my own gender and identity, and questioning if I was transphobic for believing that I was nonbinary (or possibly genderfluid, as at times I feel very comfortable being male, but at others I feel a lot more feminine).

At some point, I have to accept the fact that this is delusion, but I still really feel like I need guidance/assurance. I do not really know what to do about this.

(ANOTHER WORRY I HAVE is acting so paranoid and making it seem like I think trans people are going to cancel me and ruin my life if I say anything wrong, like a lot of transphobic people claim and act like. This is NOT AT ALL my intention, but I know I probably come off that way.)

  • CerebralHawks@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    4 hours ago

    Lifelong LGBTQ+ ally here. But not on that spectrum. I’m on another spectrum though. It starts with A and ends with utism. Aren’t I funny? Anyway. Some people like to argue. You say the wrong thing and they will want to cancel you despite your best intentions. It happens. (This is why I mentioned being autistic. We’re sometimes misunderstood.) The thing to remember is, stay true to your ethos and your virtues and don’t let a rude person ruin your day or influence how you behave. Because most LGBTQ+ want to be seen and seen as equals and treated with respect everyone is due. Like anyone else.

    I’ve never thought I might be anything-phobic but I’ve been accused of being it many times. I don’t let it change me. I do check myself, it’s always possible I’m wrong, but if I’m not, I don’t let it break my stride.