I can imagine that! I’m sorry it’s so common there 😔
I’ve never sent a dick pic and I don’t know if my anxiety/insecurity would allow me to send one even if it was requested.
I can’t fathom just sending one to a stranger without being asked for it.
I’ve gotten some on Discord. Men don’t send unsolicited dick pics to show off, they show them to harass. I only get them from people I’m not paying attention to. Like if someone messages me and I stop messaging back that’s typically when I get them. You can’t fathom doing it because you’re (hopefully lol) not someone who would sexually harass people. They don’t feel shame for doing it. To them, getting any sort of reaction to it is the goal. Telling them “you’re disgusting” would be giving them attention and something they want.
PSA: When you get unsolicited dick pics, block and report. Don’t respond. Don’t reward their behavior. If you’d like to go on some crusade to tell their mother (I’ve seen some people do that lol) that’s another topic, but never reply to them directly by saying anything.
It sounds like my experience is a little different from this woman’s though, I typically get them after I stop answering. I haven’t ever gotten one in the first message. But the “uh, hello??” part tracks with what I’ve seen. It’s attention seeking behavior.
Me neither I did it once after she pretty much threatened to strangle me if I didn’t. 🤣 And yes we still have contact to this day.
But I will never send one unsolicited, it’s so fucking weird, it’s the same as the flashers in the park, what 30 years ago, dumb fucks with no common sense or decency.
And it is so useless, I mean the woman that would like it I wouldn’t like, and the woman I would like will hate it. So there is nothing to gain unless you have a really low bar.
Is she whinging or bragging?
both.
How do you whinge?
They say whinge in Britain for wine
TIL!
They also don’t say torch right lol
I can’t understand the reasoning behind it. Do they think women like that? What’s the success rate? Are women just scrolling when all of a sudden they see a dick pic and are like “wtf I’m so horny now”.
Or they just think if they see tits it makes them horny so women MUST be the same way? If so I feel like it’s been well established that isn’t the case…
I’ve never sent one, because anxiety n stuff. But from talking to the few of my friends that do it works quite often on tinder. They basically treat tinder and and instant hookup app. The flow is basically swipe > wanna hook up here’s what i got? > ok come over.
My friend says works 100% of the time on fat women and 15% of the time on the rest. Which is enough to always have a few girls to call over at any time.
There so much misogyny oozing out of your comment, I think I’ll go disinfect my screen now.
Hope your friend gets convicted for sending unsolicited explicit content 👍
It’s probably a mix of throwing shit at the fan, power dynamics, the thrill of the taboo and probably a little bit of a humiliation fetish. It’s never about the receiver. It’s an aggressive act.
A picture is worth a thousand words
“Hi I am…I am looking for sex”
If you are using a dating website and actually trying. You’d look at a profile, read their bio, and then send a message that had something to do with their bio. (Could also comment on pictures)
But it is a numbers game to an extent and most messages sent will never see a reply.
So what is the least effort highest reward thing to send first? Private picture.
They are hoping that the person opens it and it catches their eye.
If their first thought is to send a private picture, they are not really looking for small talk. So it has the added bonus of weeding out non-sexual people.
It’s no risk, high reward
the principle equivalent genital exchange.
they think if dick pic is send vag/boob pic will be the response
Lol they’re trying to transmute their dick pics to gold
That career bragging tho… Girl that’s a red flag
I don’t agree. To me, it helps to emphasize the ridiculousness of coming in swinging with a dick pic instead of starting an actual human conversation and acknowledging that the person you’re talking to deserves respect and has more going on than a hole for you to stick something in.
That goes without saying. But to be clear, we don’t know the dick pick timing. Also I think that regardless of the vulgarity and the obvious stupidity of sending your meat to a person who didn’t ask for it, there is something positive to be found in any expression of desire towards oneself no matter how crude and idiotic.
Yeah, this seems like an excuse to brag more than anything. Men are gross, but all the extra made me think that dick picks weren’t the point of this post.
I met girls on tinder who told me how they always get dick picks, and i’m pretty sure most of them is to make them seem more interesting or for attention. I know that sounds like victim blaming, but i asked more than one girl how you send pictures on tinder and they just deleted me or made some things up on how you send pictures.
💯 secretly she loves the dick pics
Oh for sure hahah she’s like look at me I’m smart successful AND I get dicks I’m not a dry PhD bitch
I took a picture of a sparrow once. They’re called Spatz in German. In my local dialect, they’re called “Spotz” ʃpɔts in english it’s pronounced like “shpowts” - which is one of the words used for penis as well. Picture in German is Bild and in the local dialect it’s “büdl” ˈbʏdl in English pronounced like “boodle” (you have no pronunciation for ü).
So in my local dialect, a sparrow-pic is pronounced the same as a dick-pick. Spotzbüdl - ʃpɔtsˈbʏdl - spowthsboodle
Here, have some unsolitised tits and boobys
Woah woah woah! At least post some SFW Boobies!
Those are some nice tits and boobys.
Looking at them really makes my
My little bustard is jealous
Your spotz is adorable! So short and fluffy!
We kind of do have a pronunciation of ü The cornish town Bude, would be pronounced by locals as “Büd” It’s how I explained to my kids how to handle umlaut words, if it was the English word “lane“ imagine it’s spelled ‘laen’ and then get rid of the e to make ‘län’. It’s rare but some English words still use æ as a sound not a pair of letters. Spelæological for caving for instance. Often simplified to speleological.
… reply pls
Rufus!
Umm technically by ignoring them she is the opposite of a slut. Just saying.
Not that there’s anything wrong with sluts. I’m very slutty myself.
Most women learn from a very young age that the real definition of slut is 1) you used to have sex with me and not longer do so you’re a slut; 2) I want to have sex with you but you don’t notice me therefore you’re a slut; and 3) my boyfriend, husband, guy I like thinks you’re hot so you’re a slut. Doesn’t have anything to do with what sex the “slut” may or may not be having. Many women were labelled sluts while they were still virgins.
Good point. It’s just a slur. I take things too literally sometimes
I guess it would make sense to counter that slur with a counter-slur.
I.e., when somebody calls you a slut, respond by calling them a “needy one” or sth. Might hit a spot.
where the “need” is the need to be an asshole, i mean
I’m very slutty myself.
I hope you’re prepared for the flood of dik piks you’re about to receive from the unwashed masses
Well I’m a guy. Heteroflexible and pretty open though so I don’t mind dick pics.
In fact the instance I’m on is full of them :)
I would gladly send a dik pic of my own, provided she appreciates diminutive mammalian ruminants.
OMG such dorky little elks. I love them
I sent you my penis pls respond
Damn, your penis is detachable? I hope they send it back once they’re done.
Always include a self-addressed, stamped envelope.
fool, it’s mine now
Wicked burn. Top tier domination. Would read again.
So, you’re not sending noods then?
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I do like to send noods (recipe is adding salt & herbs to the noodle water, then adding cheese to herb noodles)
Damn, those noods are practically naked! Come to think of it, it’s that they are not quite naked that makes them so hot.
That’s hot.
For my spotted dick recipe, I like to let the raisins rehydrate in a bowl of lemon juice. Really gives the flavor a little extra pop of brightness.
Couldn’t imagine ever sending a dik pik, but if I did, it would be self-deprecating and meant to elicit laughter. Talk about “short” comings.
Fermented omelet
I don’t see the relevance of her day job here?
While I agree with the fact that this kind of behaviour [i.e. randomly “hanging brain” (my new favourite idiom), unsolicited, in someone’s DMs] is SO many shades of shitty in whichever context it happens, in this case in particular the job description* really does work for building up context and highlighting the dichotomy between the type of people who send dick pics and the type of people they sometimes reach.
As a bottom line, it should serve as a good enough cautionary tale about keeping one’s damned junk in their pants unless someone wants to see it, because one’ll most likely end up looking like an utter asshole while also potentially ruining someone else’s mood for literally no good reason whatsoever.
(still me, blahaj is down)
Edit: to avoid any pointless “but it isn’t just men” replies, of course it isn’t just men, but women seem to not have such a huge friggin’ need to expose themselves to unaware passers-by. This is me, speaking as an AMAB and approximately cishet. And I wouldn’t like to see a random centrefold on my phone while checking my messages, either, to be perfectly frank. There’s a time and a place, and many more factors before I get to that point.
So apparently if you aren’t a fucking scientist, then dick pics are okay to send to you.
The “type” of people shouldn’t fucking matter.
I’m sorry, I really don’t have the time to do reading comprehension with you, I’ve put it pretty clearly in the very first Idea I’ve listed. Also, reread my conclusion and see how much someone’s job shows up in what I’ve written.
Have a good’un.
You spent a whole lot of time saying “this shows how dumb men message smart women.” Yeah, that isn’t a surprise and dick pics being sent or received isn’t limited by type of person. Context doesn’t matter. Unsolicited nudes is never ok. It doesn’t matter who has what job. Her bragging and making assumptions about their intelligence is stupid, this is just a hate circle jerk.
You’re entire second paragraph is hot air that doesn’t speak to the point raised. There was no point made in that paragraph at all beyond “dick pics bad.” Yeah, we already agreed on that. Maybe you need to work on your reading comprehension because you don’t seem to understand the topic being discussed. It’s her job and bragging, not you preaching about how dick pics are bad.
Then someone calls that out and you talk down to and insult them.
Such unearned confidence with such ignorance on display isn’t shocking. Those go together a lot on Reddit, it’s just said to see.
Have a good’un.
Well, yes, that’s the gist of the whole diatribe, “junk pics bad.” But you seem to have missed my point entirely, too, because my point was “sending junk picks makes you look like an asshole and will probably ruin the other person’s mood.” Again, re-read my conclusion. And, just in case, that was the point of the post, too. Again, the job description only serves to drive home the point in that particular case.
Also, I genuinely don’t see how what I’ve written is insulting. What, the fact that I apologised that I don’t have the time to do reading comprehension? Well, yeah, because I genuinely did not have the time to do reading comprehension (which, again, may have been entirely pointless even if I did have it, as the commenter didn’t exactly demonstrate having read the entire text before jumping on “oh, so are only scientists allowed to feel offended?!”). Are you bothered by the “reading comprehension” bit? If so, why? That’s literally what that’s called.
You’ve jumped in defence of someone who hadn’t read the whole comment (at least I hope they didn’t read it, otherwise it’s worse!) (edit:) and who started out hostile from the go, and built your argument around misunderstanding my comment (again!). The initial question was (paraphrasing): “how is the job description relevant?” And I did just that in my first paragraph - explain the literary value of the job description as an element of this tale, what its value is in shaping the message and driving the point home. After which I returned to saying that, yes, one’d be an asshole regardless.
The fact that YOU choose to hyperfocus on that element and not the vast tracts of text surrounding it on either side does not mean that the original text’s messaging is what you want it to be.
Right back at you!
Yes, that was my point!
It’s just painting a picture. The story could just as easily been putting together a family dinner and focusing on what everyone’s preferences that you’ve learned over the years. Or something more Lemmy based would be dealing with a production issue as a developer and then BAM dick pic.
It’s just story telling to me.
